A violent serial rapist listed on the national sex offender registry appears to be looking for a girlfriend on a Hamilton dating website.
A profile for Najim Khairzad, who pleaded guilty in 2009 to raping four women — choking some nearly to the point of unconsciousness — is on Plenty of Fish, a free matchmaking service.
"Kindness and easy to get along with are what I’m most known for," the profile says.
It is unmistakably Khairzad’s photo and it is the same username — afgstylz83 — he frequently went by in chat groups and on gaming and dating sites before his arrest.
Some of the profile fits Khairzad’s history: he is 31, about 5-foot-10, he does have “some college” education and lives in Hamilton.
Khairzad is out of prison, confirms Correctional Services Canada. In fact, it is his second time out.
Parole Board of Canada documents show Khairzad was out on statutory release in November 2012. Less than nine months later, he was back behind bars after violating several of his conditions by drinking and driving through the very north Hamilton neighbourhood where he had picked up sex workers and raped them.
Documents show his next statutory release date — the last possible day he could be in custody — was Jan. 29, 2014. His warrant expires June 6, 2014, meaning his current parole conditions extend until then.
His conditions include reporting all intimate sexual and non-sexual relationships and friendships with women to his parole supervisor, not accessing pornography and having no contact with sex workers. He must also live at a halfway house.
Though he had sex offender counselling, the parole board assessed him as having a “preoccupation with sex” and posing a “high moderate risk” of reoffending.
Attempts to reach Khairzad for this story were unsuccessful.
The Plenty of Fish profile says, “Wants to date but nothing serious.” Interests include “having some drinks” although that is a violation of Khairzad’s conditions and lists him as having a car although he is prohibited from driving because the rapes took place in his cars.
"I saw his face and I felt sick," says a woman whom Khairzad contacted through Plenty of Fish.
The woman, who does not want her name published out of fear for her safety, says she and Khairzad once had the same circle of friends. She followed his high-profile rape case closely.
The note he sent her Wednesday asked if she’d like to meet. She believes he does not remember her from years ago.
But she remembers him.
"I blocked him and reported him to Plenty of Fish. My concern is that women are going to be raped."
Jan. 22, 2014, a profile for afgstylz with a photo of Khairzad appeared on another dating site called RateMyBody. “I’m kind, mature and I know what I want in life,” it says.
On Disabled Dating Canada, afgstylz says he has epilepsy and is a “friendly, down to earth guy who is new to this.”
Six years ago, Khairzad cruised the streets of Hamilton picking up sex workers. He was, his victims would later testify, handsome and polite. They got into his car and drove to dark parking lots.
Then he attacked.
He raped one woman four times before she got free.
The five-month string of assaults ended in the pre-dawn hours of Jan. 11, 2009. A police officer saw a man and woman arguing in a car. When he pulled them over, the terrified woman said she had been raped. Khairzad, a 25-year-old Mohawk College student, was arrested.
Later that night, police got a call from another sex worker. A man had attacked her earlier. The licence plate she gave matched Khairzad’s. A third woman came forward with another plate number, registered to another member of Khairzad’s immediate family.
Six sex workers came forward and Khairzad was charged with three counts of choking, one count of assault, three counts of sexual assault, three counts of forced anal intercourse, one count of threatening and three counts of forcible confinement.
Unbelievably, he got bail.
That’s when I met him.
I went to Khairzad’s home and interviewed him.
Khairzad told me this: “I’m not a bad person at all. Things happen to people. They can’t control their situation. People make mistakes. No one’s perfect. Nothing will happen again.”
When I pressed him on what his “mistake” was, he answered: “Making the mistake of dealing with those types of people. Sex trade workers. They’re all druggies.”
After my column on Khairzad was published, his bail was revoked and he pleaded guilty to sexually assaulting four women.
Court heard he is a sadist who gets pleasure from inflicting pain.
Dec. 8, 2009, he was sentenced to four years and four months.
That was the last time I saw Khairzad. Just before he was led away, he addressed the court.
"I am deeply sorry for the distress I have caused. This will never happen again."
Please pass this around - he is currently in Hamilton. I want everyone to know his face and his name so they can steer clear of him and remain safe.
i want to create a tv show about a group of friends where they’re all queer except the one token cishet friend who’s only there to say stereotypical “straight” things for laughs like “macklemore got me into rap” and “my mom and i got into a fight because she wouldn’t buy me a fourth obey snapback”
“Having a good hair day can make you feel like you can take on the world. Scientists believe that a blow dry may affect your mindset far more than previously thought. In fact, seeing yourself as physically attractive can make you to believe you belong in a higher social class. As a result you are also more likely to believe people lower down in a hierarchy are there because they deserve to be.”—The Better You Look the Meaner You Are (via kateoplis)
Ten years after the debut of the life-altering movie that is Mean Girls, actor Daniel Franzese, who played openly gay high schooler Damian, has come out as gay.
Franzese, now 36, wrote a letter to his character that was published in IndieWire. He asks himself why it had taken him so long to come out as gay, saying that his portrayal of Damian actually set him back in Hollywood and in his own personal coming to terms with himself.
The whole thing is damn insightful and meaningful, but here’s a particularly telling excerpt about how Daniel’s career took an unexpected turn after he played Damian:
One time I wanted to audition for a supporting character in a low-budget indie movie described as a “doughy, blue-collar lug of a guy.” The role was to play the husband of an actress friend of mine who I had been in two movies and an Off-Broadway play with. She and I had even moved to L.A. together. I figured I was perfect for it.
They said they were looking for a real “man’s man.” The casting director wouldn’t even let me audition. This wasn’t the last time this happened. There were industry people who had seen me play you in Mean Girls but never seen me read in an audition but still denied me to be seen for “masculine” roles.
However, I did turn down many offers to play flamboyant, feather-boa-slinging stereotypes that always seemed to be laughed at BECAUSE they were gay. How could I go from playing an inspirational, progressive gay youth to the embarrassing, cliched butt-of-a-joke?
So, there it was. Damian, you had ruined my life and I was really pissed at you. I became celibate for a year and a half. I didn’t go to any gay bars, have any flings and I lied to anyone who asked if I was gay. I even brought a girl to the ‘Mean Girls’ premiere and kissed her on the red carpet, making her my unwitting beard.
Why come out now, then?
It wasn’t until years later that grown men started to coming up to me on the street - some of them in tears - and thanking me for being a role model to them. Telling me I gave them comfort not only being young and gay but also being a big dude. It was then that I realized how much of an impact YOU had made on them.
Before you make the “too gay to function” joke, which I totally did before I finished reading the article, listen to what he has to say about it:
I hate it when people say I’m ‘too gay to function.’ I know you do, too. Those people are part of the problem. They should refrain from using that phrase. It really is only OK when Janis says it.
It takes some serious guts to be this open about the intermingling of your career and your personal life, especially when admitting that playing a beloved character in a classic movie has impacted you in a negative way. I have loads of respect for this man. Congrats, Daniel.
Computer Science is heinous because on one end you have that guy who made an app to record police brutality in New York and on the other you have defense contractors developing guided missiles and unmanned aircraft. I truly wonder why so many students go and work for those companies when there are so many better choices and i wish they weren’t in such a bubble of security and privilege so they could understand that their “having no agenda” makes them a shit person
“If kids can’t socialize, who should parents blame? Simple: They should blame themselves. This is the argument advanced in It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens, by Microsoft researcher Danah Boyd. Boyd—full disclosure, a friend of mine—has spent a decade interviewing hundreds of teens about their online lives.
What she has found, over and over, is that teenagers would love to socialize face-to-face with their friends. But adult society won’t let them. “Teens aren’t addicted to social media. They’re addicted to each other,” Boyd says. “They’re not allowed to hang out the way you and I did, so they’ve moved it online.”
It’s true. As a teenager in the early ’80s I could roam pretty widely with my friends, as long as we were back by dark. But over the next three decades, the media began delivering a metronomic diet of horrifying but rare child-abduction stories, and parents shortened the leash on their kids. Politicians warned of incipient waves of youth wilding and superpredators (neither of which emerged). Municipalities crafted anti-loitering laws and curfews to keep young people from congregating alone. New neighborhoods had fewer public spaces. Crime rates plummeted, but moral panic soared. Meanwhile, increased competition to get into college meant well-off parents began heavily scheduling their kids’ after-school lives.