We do know something about most men who rape. For example, numerous studies have found that while they tend to be more emotionally constricted than nonaggressive men, and are often angry and hostile to women, most of them are psychologically “normal.” The psychologist David Lisak points out that the old stereotype of the rapist was derived in part from extensive studies with incarcerated rapists, many of whom committed acts of grievous violence against their victims, who were often strangers. But according to Lisak, research over the past twenty years clearly demonstrates that the vast majority of rapes are perpetrated by what he calls “undetected rapists,” and they usually know their victims. Undetected rapists are men who typically behave in stereotypically masculine ways, see sex as conquest, and are hypersensitive to any perceived slight against their manhood. But they are not crazy, and they are not sociopaths. “There is simply no evidence, save the rape itself,” Katharine Baker writes in the Harvard Law Review, “suggesting that all or even most rapists are objectively depraved.” Chillingly, she goes on to say that given the social norms that encourage it, there is evidence that rape is “culturally dictated, not culturally deviant.””—Jackson Katz, Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help (via wretchedoftheearth)
“America was built on two monumental crimes: the genocide of the Native American and the enslavement of the African American. The tendency of official America is to memorialize other peoples’ crimes and to forget its own - to seek a high moral ground as a pretext to ignore real issues.”—
- stayed at school longer than I planned
- more than 30 degrees outside today, not a very good idea to wear a cardigan
- went to the mall with hs friends to have lunch and catch up then went to ikea
- threw up in the middle of ikea bc I started feeling ill out of nowhere probably bc of something I ate
- spent $30 on 4 lil plants, I’m officially a plant blogger
- now I’m home :^)
Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men’s estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt—basically, males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. Women, too, were blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.
Shout out to interracial, bisexual, pansexual, genderfluid, and otherwise “gray” or “mixed” people who get to deal with shit from pretty much every angle all while having your identity erased, ignored, or redefined for you whenever another group sees fit. I see you, love you, and want to make things better.
Did everyone read that piece where the guy who coined the term Manic Pixie Dream Girl talks about regretting coming up with it, and why it used to be a term for pointing out misogyny, but has actually kinda become misogynistic itself because male critics just use it to denigrate any woman onscreen they don’t like?
the way white supremacist talk makes me laugh because they literal sound like someone that’s writing a pointless essay for a general ed class they’ve been half playing attention to and they honestly don’t know what they tryna say but their goal is trying to prove to their professor that they understand and believe what they say despite the fact they clearly don’t
Sounding like “The diversity within the tri-state area of several districts should lead to segregation of said districts located within the tri-state area. Therefore the need of diversity is not needed in the tri-state area and should not be needed….in the tri-state area of diversity “
“Some problems we share as women, some we do not. You fear your children will grow up to join the patriarchy and testify against you, we fear our children will be dragged from a car and shot down in the street, and you will turn your backs upon the reasons they are dying.”—Audre Lorde, “Age, Race, Class, and Sex,” Sister Outsider