thicccc:

a quick guide to tipping your servers (in america)

- please tip 15% minimum unless your server is really really terrible. servers get tipped minimum wage which is currently federally at $2.13 an hour if i’m not mistaken. it varies from state to state but the highest i know of right now is $3.10/hr. we don’t earn a lot in hourly wages. it’s not like we’re swimming in money after a 50-hour work week. our income is literally based on our tips. we try our best to be nice and talkative, but if we’re very very busy and can’t pay extra attention to you, don’t think we’re being rude or lazy.

- if your food is incorrectly cooked or your alcoholic drink is too weak/mixed incorrectly, please don’t tip your server less for this! it’s one thing if they put in the order wrong, but it’s another if the cooks aren’t doing their job. at most places, cooks do NOT get a cut of the tips. so don’t give your server a bad tip for bad food. likewise, bartenders sometimes will get a tip-out from servers, but it’s not usually more than 3% of all of the alcohol the server sold the entire night, so if your beer is warm, it’s probably not your server’s fault and you shouldn’t tip them bad for a warm beer.

- if you have a party and you’re splitting up the checks, check how much everyone’s tips are altogether! a lot of the time parties who split the checks assume other people are tipping well and don’t tip servers even a full 15%. if you’re a big party you’re likely one of the only tables a server has for the night. you know how gratuities are 18%? tip a party like a gratuity - 18% standard since you’re taking up a lot of room, more if the service was good.

- if you have a small bill, please don’t do 15% on like, a 5 dollar tab. leave a couple bucks. a server doesn’t want small change. it doesn’t make up for the loss in hourly wages like its supposed to.

- if you’re only drinking/have a small bill and you’re sitting at a table for a long time, realize that you should tip extra for taking up that table. by not ordering food or drink, you’re preventing table turnover for that server and keeping them from earning the money they need. that’s not to say you can’t sit down and socialize, just that you need to be considerate when tipping for taking up the table.

- this is a big one!! if you have a coupon or a discount card, do NOT tip for the bill after the discount! ALWAYS tip your server based on the bill before the discount. this is so important especially at places that have a buy one get one free meal coupons. those are awful for servers because people only tip them for half of the service the server provided usually. please tip based on the pre-discount bill!

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therailz:

when you fuck up and realize there’s nothing you can do so you just accept it

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eva-420:

eva-420:

"this lady thinks that men are encouraged to be aggressive and violent? lets threaten her that will show how wrong she is" like what the fuck point do you think youre making 

this post is getting notes again in light of emma watsons speech and it wasnt even about her. this happens literally so constantly i didnt even need to put a name but it will gain notes ad infinitum 

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pournstar:

boy: have sex w me
girl: no
boy: misandry is real

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We found that, upon exposure to sexist humor, men higher in sexism discriminated against women by allocating larger funding cuts to a women’s organization than they did to other organizations.

We also found that, in the presence of sexist humor, participants believed the other participants would approve of the funding cuts to women’s organizations. We believe this shows that humorous disparagement creates the perception of a shared standard of tolerance of discrimination that may guide behavior when people believe others feel the same way.

The research indicates that people should be aware of the prevalence of disparaging humor in popular culture, and that the guise of benign amusement or “it’s just a joke” gives it the potential to be a powerful and widespread force that can legitimize prejudice in our society

— Thomas E. Ford, professor of psychology at Western Carolina University (via baebees)

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russianlolita:

my cats about to kiss at a tea party

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unsaturated-mangravy:

I think that if they make abortion illegal, they should make men deserting women who they got pregnant illegal as well. Because if a woman can’t back out of a pregnancy a man shouldn’t be able to either.

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sirensongfashion:

Fei Fei Sun by Steven Meisel for Vogue Italia January 2013 (video) sirensongfashion:

Fei Fei Sun by Steven Meisel for Vogue Italia January 2013 (video) sirensongfashion:

Fei Fei Sun by Steven Meisel for Vogue Italia January 2013 (video)
daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post. daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post. daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post. daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post. daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post. daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post. daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post. daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:



"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 


Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post.

daniellemertina:

howtobeterrell:

aiffe:

underplay:

"This leaves men confused and unable to pigeonhole you. What they are forced to do instead is… take you seriously."

Reblog every time.

i will ALWAYS reblog this. I feel powerful just reading this photoset lol 

Sorry to hijack, but I am reblogging because this is a PERFECT example of a woman with an internalized male gaze. She is trained to see herself at all times the way a man would—not a specific, human man, but the generalized, ruthless male gaze. She is never alone with herself—the male gaze watches her through her own eyes at every moment.

I’m very sorry, but this is not empowering, this is depressing. A woman deserves to not have to perform sexual availability to men to be “taken seriously.” A woman deserves her independence without having to cater to men to avoid being pigeonholed as a “bitch.” A woman’s integrity is not contingent on her sexual history, and her sexual history is no one’s business. Getting power over a man through being his mommy is not real power because it leaves you with all the responsibility and none of the credit, just like his real mother. Seeing yourself through the male gaze is seeing a constant distortion, is an attack on your true identity.

Here’s a better message. You don’t need men’s permission to be taken seriously. Take yourself seriously. Take other women seriously. And if men don’t take you seriously, annihilate them. Their lack of perception is not your problem. Their soggy diapers are not your problem. Their boners are not your problem. You may have a male child or a male lover, but all of the male gender is not your child or your lover, and you don’t have to treat them like they are. Be yourself. See yourself. See through your own gaze. Turn YOUR gaze on THEM, measure them and find them wanting.

Take yourself seriously. You can be any of the things above if you want to. But don’t do them for men. They aren’t worth it.

Was waiting for someone to do this

Thank you, because there’s nothing empowering about the original post.

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